Crafting Real Connections, One Match at a Time.

With over a thousand successful love matches made, the Co-Owners of Best Man Matchmaking, Anthony Canapi and Daniel Cooley, recognize the unique challenges Gay Men face in their search for lasting, meaningful relationships.

Understanding the need for personalized support and assurance, the duo have crafted a refined matchmaking approach that prioritizes both comfort and confidence throughout their dating journey.

At Best Man Matchmaking, we offer an exclusive, tailor made service designed to foster personal growth and deliver lasting, authentic results.

Investment Packages

Private Matchmaking

VIP Matchmaking Service

 

– Assigned Your Own Private Matchmaking Collective.
– Signature Date Experience with Your Matchmaking Team,
– Pre-Date Consultations with Your Relationship Strategists.
– Hand-picked Introductions from a Curated Circle of Distinguished Bachelors.
– Guaranteed Introductions with White-Glove Date Planning.
– Post-Date Insight & Refinement Sessions.
– Direct Access to Your Matchmaking Team.
– Invitation-Only Access to Exclusive Social Experiences.

 

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The Gay-tabase

Passive Matchmaking Service

 

– Opportunity to be matched with one of our Private Matchmaking Clients (not guaranteed)
– Invites to our Singles Mixers, Parties, Retreats, and more

 

 

 

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How It Works

Level 1: Share Your Story

To get started, click any of the “Get Started Here” buttons to fill out our private, initial questionnaire form. The form will go over your personal background and professional accolades, but most importantly, what qualities and values you seek for in your future partner. After filling out your initial questionnaire form, one of our Gay Matchmakers will review your questionnaire, and be in touch with you to schedule your personal consultation.

Level 2: One-on-One Consultation

Potential clients will schedule and hop on a Matchmaking Call with one of our Gay Matchmakers. During your call, our Gay Matchmaker will get to know you, find out a bit about how you’re meeting people now, understand why you’re considering the support of a Gay Matchmaker, and how we can support you!

Level 3: Professional Date with your Gay Matchmakers

New Matchmaking Clients will be invited to a two (2) hour, date (professionally!) with your designated Gay Matchmaking Team. During the dinner, your Gay Matchmakers will learn more about you and what you are looking for in a partner in full-depth: from hobbies, interests, community service, religion compatibility, seeking marriage or a life partner, do you want to have kids, even ask what’s your sexual preference in the bedroom (yes, we ask that question, and must take everything into account), alongside having a nice dinner and a few drinks (because we gays love to socialize and have some good food and beverages). We craft a personalized dating profile that highlights your unique qualities and desires.

Level 4: Sit Back, Relax, and Review Potential Matches

As your team gets to know you, they will be working on your behalf behind the scenes- scouting, recruiting, vetting, and curating quality potential matches. Matchmaking Clients will receive an email and/or text from your Matchmaking Team to present, review, and approve potential matches.

Level 5: Planning The Date

Once the Matchmaking Client and his match approve to meet one another, your Gay Matchmaking Team will coordinate the first date- from the date, time, and location, we will even send you a date email regarding all of the date details, alongside our matchmaking tips and tricks for your first date! Dates are planned as In-Person Dates, such as coffee, happy hour, or dinner at the promenade!

Level 6: Post-Date Feedback and Call to Action

The day after the first date, your Gay Matchmaking Team will send both the client and his match a date feedback form to fill out to see how the date went, and discuss a call of action- whether that’s both daters agreeing to meet for a second date or moving on to the next match/respectfully declining a second date.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What makes Best Man Matchmaking different from other Matchmakers or Matchmaking Companies who work with Gay Men?

Best Man Matchmaking is an award-winning, gay-owned & operated matchmaking agency, run by a team of Gay Men who specialize in matchmaking Gay Men. We are committed to providing personalized matchmaking that is truly rooted in our lived experiences.

While many matchmaking agencies claim to work with gay men, there are key differences:
– Some services can matchmake gay men, but do not specialize in them as a niche priority.
– Many matchmaking services focus primarily on heterosexual matchmaking and only offer LGBTQ+ services as an additional offering.
– Some matchmaking companies are led by individuals who have not, and will never, live through what any LGBTQPIA2S+ person experience, which can impact their understanding of the nuances of dating.
– A number of services are not actively involved in advocating for or supporting the broader LGBTQIA2S+ community.

At Best Man Matchmaking, we are a team of gay men who are deeply passionate about helping our community. Our Co-Owners, Anthony Canapi and Daniel Cooley, are not only certified as Professional Matchmakers, they bring their personal insights and experiences into their work as Gay Men. They understand firsthand the challenges, growth, and unique needs of dating in the gay space, and are dedicated to creating authentic and meaningful connections for our clients.

Our mission is to bring real, meaningful connections back into your dating life, with a focus on understanding, compassion, and shared experiences. We don’t just match people – we build relationships based on what matters most to you.

How many matches do you guarantee in a matchmaking investment?

The number of matches you can expect depends on your unique preferences, needs, and goals for your romantic connection. We guarantee a select number of potential dates, but primarily, it’s not our general focus. Our goal is to ensure that each match is aligned with your values and desires, so we focus on quality and meaningful connections, not quantity.  

Will I be able to see photos of my match beforehand?

Absolutely!

At Best Man Matchmaking, we understand that physical attraction plays a significant role in compatibility. While emotional and intellectual connections are crucial, we also believe that a genuine, physical connection is important for building a meaningful relationship. Our Co-Owners, Anthony and Daniel, often share that “while you may match perfectly on paper and share similar synergy, physical attraction is key to moving beyond a platonic connection. Without that spark, even the best matches can remain just friendships or, at worst, ghosted.”

We want you to feel confident and excited about your connection, so we ensure that you can view photos of your match beforehand to help you make an informed decision.

I’m based outside Southern California, do you work with and take on clients outside Southern California?

Yes! At Best Man Matchmaking, we proudly work with clients across the United States of America. While our strongest service network is here in California, we’ve successfully helped clients from many other cities and even internationally, including in Mexico and England.

If you’re located outside our strongest networks and can’t travel for dates, we’re happy to refer you to one of our trusted LGBTQPIA2S+ matchmaking partners who can offer personalized support in your area.

We’re committed to helping you find meaningful connections, no matter where you are!

What is your success rate/how many clients get into exclusive relationships from the service?

At Best Man Matchmaking, we believe that success is more than just finding an exclusive relationship.

We define success in many ways, including gaining dating confidence, developing a deeper self-awareness, or simply learning more about what you truly want in a partner. These are all important steps in the journey toward a meaningful connection.

That said, Anthony and Daniel have matched thousands of gay men who have went to be closed in exclusive relationships, with some even taking the next step and getting married! We are dedicated to helping you on your path to finding the connection you deserve, and we would love to help you achieve the same success.

What’s the frequency at which I will meet my matches during my membership?

The frequency of meeting matches varies, as we believe in quality over quantity.

At Best Man Matchmaking, we don’t simply share a set number of profiles each month for the sake of it. Instead, we take our time to ensure that each match is thoughtfully selected, focusing on both compatibility on paper and shared energy. We value a traditional, organic approach in our scouting and recruitment, so while there may be some waiting to ensure the best match, we are committed to getting it right.

As of 2026, we have developed a system of action for matchmaking clients to receive updates & keep you informed about your progress and the status of your matchmaking journey.

Do you offer coaching?

Yes, we do! At Best Man Matchmaking, we offer a personalized 1-on-1 Coaching designed to help you achieve dating success and build the meaningful connections you’re looking for. We’re committed to guiding you through the process with expertise and care to ensure real, lasting results. Please email Daniel at daniel@bestmanmatchmaking.com to inquire!

Do you offer therapy?

We sure do! Our Founder and Co-Owner, Anthony Canapi, is not only a Certified Matchmaker, an Award-Winning Gay Dating Coach, recognized by DatingNews.com as one of the “10 Best Gay Dating Coaches of 2024.”, but Anthony also holds his Master’s in Clinical Psychology, specializing in LGBTQ+ Affirmative Psychology, and is registered as an Associate Marriage & Family Therapist.

Anthony offers personalized therapy services, including individual and couples therapy, specifically tailored for gay men.

* Please Note: If you wish to proceed with Anthony for therapy services, due to HIPAA laws under the state of California, Anthony is unable to serve as one of your Gay Matchmakers. If you wish to proceed with both matchmaking and therapy services, matchmaking services will be conducted under Daniel Cooley.